Learning to give yourself love

Shyam Adhikari
3 min readJan 28, 2023

We go through our days without ever giving ourselves a few minutes to see how we’re doing. Emotional ignorance can sometimes be a survival tactic at a specific moment, but it’s a very unhealthy habit if you want to be healthy. To fight this temptation, there’s no better medicine than giving yourself time, and it needs to be quality time. It should be the kind that leaves a good taste in your mouth.

One of the best ways to do that is to give yourself small doses of daily love. You’ll start to connect with your inner self. Read on and learn some practical ways to love yourself.

Learning to give yourself love

We give our love to other people almost every day. But we have a bad habit of forgetting ourselves. Yet there’s no better support system for happy relationships and personal well-being than self-love. Can you imagine a better investment?

If you give yourself love in small doses, you’ll be fostering healthy self-esteem. We can define self-esteem as the positive attitude we have toward ourselves. It encourages us to think, feel, and act in the most self-satisfactory way possible. If you want to give yourself love, read on.

  • Learning about yourself. This first aspect is fundamental. Each one of us is limited edition. Learning you strengths and weaknesses will help you figure out where to invest more time and energy. And don’t forget that we’re constantly changing, so we’ll never stop discovering new things about ourselves.
  • Accepting yourself unconditionally. Accepting yourself means acknowledging yourself. Doing it unconditionally means doing it no matter what our limitations are and what situation we’re in. You don’t want to turn into your own worst enemy.
  • Respecting and valuing yourself. The greatest support you have is your own, as long as you respect yourself. That’s why it’s important to keep in mind that you’re not just a collection of your failures, but also a collection of your victories. If you have to criticize yourself it should at least be in a constructive way. You’ve done more good than you think…
  • Considering your full potential. Beyond what you’ve achieved there’s a whole world of possibilities. You’re constantly changing, so learning to make the most out of change is the goal. The saying about how you’re never too old to learn must be famous for a reason…
  • Building good relationships. Having healthy relationships with others will help you get into good habits and make you happy. There’s nothing better than being with people who make you feel peace.
  • Working on your health and happiness. Focusing on how to be happy is fundamental, but always as long as we remember that sometimes it’s good to delay short-term gratification for long-term. In this case happiness is more than just balance. It’s about intelligently making choices based on the time and circumstances.
  • Paying attention to your needs. It’s impossible to be healthy and happy without paying attention to what you need, whether physically or psychologically. That’s why you have to stop and reflect on how you’re doing.

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Shyam Adhikari

I enjoy talking about design in influencing people's lives.